Reblogged from Kellevision

http://www.kellevision.com/kellevision/2009/03/you-might-be-in-an-abusive-relationship.html

I have highlighted the ones I experienced in my former marriage:

You might be in an abusive relationship if:

  1. You’re afraid to break up with them
  2. You feel tied down, like you have to check-in or account for your whereabouts
  3. You feel afraid to make decisions or bring up certain subjects because the other person gets too mad
  4. You are afraid to contradict them
  5. You tell yourself if you just try harder and love your partner enough that everything will get better
  6. You find yourself crying a lot, being depressed or unhappy
  7. You find yourself using more drugs or alcohol to deal with the anxiety or fear in the relationship or to numb yourself out
  8. You find yourself worrying and obsessing about how to please your partner and keep them happy
  9. You feel like you are walking on eggshells all the time
  10. You find the physical, verbal, mental or emotional abuse is getting worse over time
  11. You are being cut off (or alienated) from family members and friends more and more
  12. You partner makes decisions about where to go or what to do with little or no input from you
  13. You are being belittled and called names when the two of you are alone
  14. You are being embarrassed and humiliated in front of others, or your partner talks about you as if you are not there
  15. You are having sex that is forced or rougher than you prefer
  16. You find the intensity you had in the beginning of the relationship quickly waning
  17. You are being treated like a servant by your partner
  18. You are prevented from having access to your own money or the family’s money
  19. Money is used to control and manipulate you
  20. You are made to feel guilty about the children, being told the children need a two parent home
  21. The children are used to relay messages between you and your partner
  22. You are being threatened with having the children taken away from you
  23. Visitation rights are being used to harass you
  24. Your partner minimizes the abuse, tells you it didn’t happen or that you are crazy
  25. You are feeling intimidated by your partner when they hit objects, abuse pets, brandish weapons, or verbally threaten you