This post is reblogged from another web-blog about narcissism. It was pulled from the Web Archives of the blog, which seems to be no longer available online. If I determine who originally posted it I will, as usual, give credit where it is due. –JoyfulAliveWoman
I’m very sad to say that Kathy Krajco, whose writing has so often shone the light of truth into the fog of NPD, has passed away.
Her obituary is here: Kathy S. Krajco Obituary
In her memory ~
Narcissism’s One-Track Mind
One thing people who haven’t known a narcissist for a very long time and intimately don’t realize is that narcissists give new meaning to the term “one-track mind.” They are always on.
They may keep a lid on it with their boss and/or other people they don’t dare treat as they would like, but the proof lies in how they treat the people they can play games with.
They are in game-playing mode 100% of the time. Everything, every interaction with them is viewed and treated by them as some sort of worthiness competition.
The childishness is something one must see to believe, and even then it’s unbelievable. I went for decades before I finally had to admit that the narcissists I knew were so petty and childish that their game got all the way down to such silly things as having to have YOU call THEM, no matter what, just to support their delusions that YOU were the “needy” one. Yes (projection), YOU were the one who needed an ear to talk off. They were dying to talk at you about themselves, but it would have killed them to come down off that pedestal and pick up the phone. So, when you finally did call for some reason, you hardly had “hello” out of you your mouth before you were done talking and just listening for the next three hours.
But that’s just one example. I could name hundreds of these childish games they play with virtually any everyday human interaction.
They are God, so they can’t dispretend that by owing you anything. That would be a come-down from their grandiosity. Nor can they be in the wrong in any matter with you. They are perfect, and you are relative dirt. And EVERY SINGLE THING THAT HAPPENS MUST PROVE THAT.