Cutting Ties with a Narcissist

“When you cut psychic cords [between yourself and another person] you have to be ready and willing to embrace a change in your life. There will be something missing! But nature always moves in to fill a void in our lives. Be prepared to accept something better. Invite something better into your life. Invite love, light and positive energy. It may take a while to get used to how this feels in your energy field, but once you adapt to it, you will be glad you put out the invitation.” –Kaleah LaRoche

If you are in a relationship that you cannot end (such as a parent, child, sibling, father or mother of your children, etc.) the article below by Kaleah LaRoche is very helpful. I think it is well worth reading, as is the rest of the blog. And do consider getting the book Spiritual Recovery From Narcissistic Abuse.

Fairly soon after a particularly distressing email from H — the woman with whom I had a highly dysfunctional friendship for over thirty years, and who is the reason I started this blog — I performed a psychic cord cutting.

H has long been well aware of psychic cord cutting, as have I. When I finally did a psychic cord cutting between her and I (they looked like huge metal chains), I made sure that it was thorough, complete and final. I set my intention very strongly, and I did not waiver. I knew that it was long past time.

I was quite ready, but you can do this even if you don’t feel 100% ready. You can practice it, and ultimately make it final. My experience is that with some cord cutting the cords grow back or reappear and it becomes necessary to do another cutting or more than two cuttings until the process is complete.

When you visualize the cords between yourself and another person, they may look like ropes, chains, vines, wires, umbilical cords – anything that can be used to tie or bind things together. They can even look like pretty satin ribbons in all colors of the rainbow (I once experienced this many years ago).

It is important to note that you can do cord cutting yourself. Read up on it and practice doing it. It’s really quite simple. It’s all about desire to do so, and setting your intention. Once it is done, it’s done. Also, there is no need to pay someone big bucks to do it for you.

The result of cutting the cords with H was that I did not need to go back and do it again. Once I did it, it was so final in my mind that there was no need. My only regret was that I hadn’t done it years sooner. –JoyfulAliveWoman

P.S. The angel in the graphic below is Archangel Michael, the angel responsible for doing battle with dark forces, of course done with Light.  Archangel Michael and his legions can be called upon at any time for assistance in this regard.

Cutting The Psychic Energy Cords, by Rev. Kaleah LaRoche

Disconnect From Emotionally Draining Relationships

cutting the psychic chordsIt is becoming more and more evident that there is an invisible web of energy tying us all together. This web of energy is discussed in books such as “The Field” by Lynne McTaggart, “What You Can Feel You Can Heal,” by John Gray, “The Celestine Prophecy” by James Redfield, and movies like “The Secret” and “What the Bleep Do We Know.”

We know that we are affected by unseen forces. For example, we don’t see the wind or the air we breathe. We don’t see viruses in the air, or bacteria on our food. Similarly we don’t see the invisible thread of energy that goes between ourselves and those we relate with on a daily basis.

I began understanding the psychic connection between people about ten years ago although I’ve known about it on some level most of my life.

I was on a massage table having some energy work done in Sedona, Arizona and my therapist said there were so many psychic cords attached to me that he needed to get out the lawn mower. It was a sort of joke between us. Normally when one performs a cord cutting exercise one uses an imaginary sword or scissors.

psychic chord cuttingRight as the energy worker went over my psychic energy field with the lawn mower, my narcissistic boyfriend jumped up from the waiting room he was in and came running in angry and disoriented. The next day another emotionally vampiric ex-boyfriend contacted me by email and so did his ex-wife, and his daughter. I was amazed at the power of this rather simple process. Those who had been disconnected felt me on some level and made contact with me in an effort to re-connect.

Earlier that same month a woman who could see energy saw a hose-like cord going from me to my boyfriend and said that he was sucking my energy.

As I began studying narcissism and its psychic effects on the victim, I could see the power those psychic cords had on influencing our reality. I also saw the importance of detaching or severing those cords in order to be free of the continuing psychic effects of that relationship.

I performed a series of cord cutting exercises on myself to break the psychic bonds with my narcissistic ex-boyfriend. I could see how he would re-attach psychically even after six months of not seeing him. This would happen at my weakest moments when I was blaming myself or feeling down about myself in some way. In a sense I would invite the connection back because there was a part of me that wanted it.

Unfortunately the psychic connection between myself and my ex-boyfriend was very unhealthy for me. It resulted in my feeling weak, disempowered, obsessive, sad, depressed, tired, and seeing myself as a failure. Severing the psychic cords would restore my power and sense of confidence in myself.

I realized that through this psychic connection I was taking on everything he had always projected onto me. I was owning his stuff, allowing the dark, murky waters of his emotional reality to flow into my energy field, polluting my reality.

When we sever the psychic hose that dumps the murky, toxic energy of an unconscious partner or former partner into our energy field, we can begin to see clear water once again. It was pretty clear that this narcissistic individual in my life needed to have someone to dump his repressed emotional toxicity onto in order to feel strong within himself. If he wasn’t dumping on me he would be dumping on someone else.

Once we disconnect those psychic, emotional cords the person who has been borrowing our energy will feel a difference and he may even know, on some level, that something has just happened and it has to do with you. Often the phone will ring, or we will get an email, or he may even show up at the door. This is a time we need to be particularly strong and keep our energy to ourselves.

Sometimes we need to repeat the process of cutting the psychic cords several times in order to be completely free of the energy that is draining us. I believe that the process always works, even when we don’t feel an immediate difference. The only reason it may not seem to work, for some, is that the they have become so accustomed to the murky energy of the psychic vampire in their life that they invite the cord to reattach.

We get comfortable with what is is familiar and if we have established a pattern with a narcissistic or emotional vampire we have to really understand how to break that connection and change the pattern.

I spoke to a woman who once described the attachment like a grey cloud over her head and she was so used to this cloud that when it was gone she missed it and went seeking the cloud. It was as if having blue skies in her life was unfamiliar and somewhat uncomfortable. We get used to our dark clouds and aren’t sure what to do when they are gone. It is the same reason that victims of abuse keep finding people to abuse them. It is familiar and comfortable.

So when you cut those psychic cords you have to be ready and willing to embrace a change in your life. There will be something missing! But nature always moves in to fill a void in our lives. Be prepared to accept something better. Invite something better into your life. Invite love, light and positive energy. It may take a while to get used to how this feels in your energy field, but once you adapt to it, you will be glad you put out the invitation.
–Kaleah LaRoche Psychic Cord Cutting

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