- Face the problem. Accept responsibility for the Narcissistic Abuse you are experiencing.
- Accept it. Sooner than later.
- Get clear about the direction you want your life to go.
- Journal about your feelings, frustrations, hopes, wishes, dashed dreams, etc. (This is a crucial step.)
- Identify the traits of Narcissism in the person who is bothering you.
- Identify the “gradation” or level, of Narcissism in the person who is bothering you (the “Narcissism Spectrum“).
- Educate yourself about all the aspects of Narcissism and how it manifests.
- Recognize that things will not “get better” on their own; recognize that the Narcissist cannot change and cannot “heal.”
- Make a workable plan.
- Stick to the plan! (making any necessary adjustments, of course)
- Realize that you do not owe the Narcissist any explanation of why things are now different, or why you want out. Stand firm.
- Familiarize yourself with the terms “Little Contact” (LC), “No Contact” (NC), etc. Determine what level of contact is best for you. (This will of course be unique to each relationship, i.e., you can’t always go NC with an abusive ex-husband/father of your children.)
- Mourn the relationship (or situation, i.e., a living arrangement or a job) by putting it into proper perspective.
- Stay strong. Clean up any negative habits like poor self care: eating poorly, not getting enough rest, or not taking good care of yourself in general.
- Get therapy if you need it. Often simply a good diet, adequate exercise and proper rest with healthy social boundaries is enough. You’ll know whether you need more (professional therapy).
- Seek positive people. Avoid negative people. Don’t allow people to intimidate you. This can be difficult at first, because of former habits.
Stay Strong! Live Well! Be Happy!
How To Stop Attracting Abuse from a Narcissist – Attitudes and behaviors that invite and allow mistreatment. Take responsibility for your part in the abuse you’re experiencing.